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By: teachthemwell (offline)  Monday, April 26 2010 @ 05:56 AM CDT (Read 1598 times)  
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I'm facing a dilemma now cos my P4 daughter's constantly quarreling over wanting to go out with her friends...

I haven't let her out on her own before & am worried. Should I really let her out now or wait till she's in secondary school???

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By: fadou (offline)  Tuesday, April 27 2010 @ 03:42 AM CDT  
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Hi Dear
I understand fully your worries ,I have 4 kids and I am lost at times ,let me tell you ,your daughter is only 10 years may be less ,she is underage ,you are totally in control ,you should not allow her to go out or else ,she has to take instructions whether she likes it or not ,never submit yourself to her or she will take advantage of you ,ask her to wait till she is older as it is not safe to be out there as you do not know what is she doing and who is she going out with ,be strong I have a son who is primary 4 and I can be pretty ruthless
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By: papasmurfette (offline)  Thursday, April 29 2010 @ 08:46 AM CDT  
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Quote by: fadou

Hi Dear
I understand fully your worries ,I have 4 kids and I am lost at times ,let me tell you ,your daughter is only 10 years may be less ,she is underage ,you are totally in control ,you should not allow her to go out or else ,she has to take instructions whether she likes it or not ,never submit yourself to her or she will take advantage of you ,ask her to wait till she is older as it is not safe to be out there as you do not know what is she doing and who is she going out with ,be strong I have a son who is primary 4 and I can be pretty ruthless
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i agree with fadou. just be firm on your stand. i admit i'm the type who dotes on my girl, but in the future when she reaches that stage, i'm promise to myself not to give in.

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By: jling (offline)  Friday, April 30 2010 @ 12:04 AM CDT  
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Hello,
I guess there is never a 'ight time or age before we think our kids are wise or mature enough to go on outing on their own. The society is more complicated than our times. Our kids are being brought up in very comfy /cushion/protected environment!
(All created by us!!) We either send kids to school or they get ferried by school bus! Whilst we have euip them with the latest cell phone gadget, we may not have taught them to be street-wise!

Agree that 10years old or under kinda young to be out on her own. Some form of communciation is probably good to explain to her why you dissallow it Don't let this issue be a start to any form of resentment. Kids at this age don't give up easily. My son is 10yrs and I have seen how 'creative and resourceful' he can be to achieve what he wants!! What about her friends, do you know them or their parents well? Has her friends been allowed to be on their own? This could be peer pressure! Most importanly, do you trust your child well enough? Only you know your daughter well enough to say when she is ready to be on her own!!

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By: teachthemwell (offline)  Sunday, May 02 2010 @ 03:06 PM CDT  
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Thanks parents your opinions. It seems that the root of the problem is peer pressure! Don't know how to deal with this peer pressure thing, as I can't possibly go to the classroom and stop my daughter from mixing with her 'clique'...

It's really scary what youngsters are capable of these days. Recently I overheard this teenage girl reminding her female friend to help lie about her being at her place if her mother called, as she's going to hang out at her boyfriend's again! Sigh... What can we do

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By: mumintestland (offline)  Wednesday, May 05 2010 @ 06:41 AM CDT  
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You can't stop kids from doing rebellious things because they have legs of their own. Or if you really let your child out, you can secretly follow her for awhile until you're sure she's not mixing with the wrong company.

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